Message 018

Character Differences. You need what you abhor to be whole.

I have seen and heard people talk about their character and what they cannot tolerate. They speak so
passionately about their egos. Let me ask such people: have you seen a society that is made up of only
sanguines or only cholerics?
Everyone deserves a space in life. In the boarding house, group or society you will notice that some people want to tress-pass your space. It can be that bad that you do not want to stay in the group. It could be they laugh at you or give you names or stop talking when you are approaching. Have you paused to think why all of them synchronise to do that to you. Your usual response has been to avoid them. But that is making you stay outside always, loosing the benefits and right you have to access and amenities. The group is rather exposing your weakness! You need the patience and humility to understudy others in other to shine. During my university days a lot of the guys were shocked when our first “IA” came out – two girls got “A.”
This went on for a while. It was easy to conclude, suspecting the girls to have ‘bought’ their grades – of
course they were very beautiful and charming. It took my best friend in the university to change my
perspective about what we all thought about the girls. He said “ Ansa, those two girls are very brainy what I think is that we should form a discussion group with them.” The girls agreed. We were six in the group – 3 girls and 3 boys. In our year group there were 2 first class honours and guess what, it was those two girls. We easily write people off either physically or mentally because of our own myopic point of view. And our hearts can deceive us into thinking we are so right. However in many cases they are the people we need to push us to another level. Some characters are very good for client service whilst others are super for debt collection. You can’t be nice all through or vice versa . You need someone to complement your character for you to win.
1. If you are fortunate to have this pair in the office, you will grow exponentially. If you get it in
marriage, exhibiting maturity, you will be reaching perfection.
2. Many leaders have succeeded because they have someone to cover their backs, telling them what
no one dares to say!
3. Though people see you to be successful your complement knows your weak points and if only you
will humble yourselves and do obeisance, you too can excel beyond boundaries.
4. Your talent, intelligence, skills set and professional expertise per se don’t guarantee you success
– it is how you tolerate people, how accessible you are, and your humility to your patrons that
become the barometer of your win.